It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single woman in possession of a good education must be in want of a rich husband.

Or so the world implied when, in May 2009, I celebrated my second graduation from Columbia University. This time I threw my cap into the air to the tune of a Master’s degree in Art History. A few months later, I was unemployed and facing an uncertain future. I packed my two diplomas into a cardboard box and did what every 20-something was loathe to do – give up an apartment in New York City and move to the suburbs.

I’m a 30-something quasi-New Yorker, part Carrie Bradshaw, part Elizabeth Bennett, part Bridget Jones, mostly myself. The #1 piece of advice people gave me as I started to navigate my way through early adulthood: “Find yourself a nice, rich husband.”

Surely, they had better advice to offer than that.

I not really a girl trying to find a rich husband. I’m just a girl trying to understand how we live and love now.

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So this is 30.
So this is 30.

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  1. swissknifev

    20 something singleton, you’re so pretty so pretty. You’re looking like a teenage movie Star. No luck, i am not a book editor. Rich men, nice men, poor men, bad men, handsome men, ugly men, yuck men, wow men, tall men short men, funny men, serious men, soft men, hard men-well you’ve got a huge checklist to study. As a guy what can I tell you pretty girl? Nothing. Because you’ll never know the cake until you bite it. To bite, it must look delicious and sound yummy. Am I an expert? I have a lot of girl friends too. Do I know women? No, I am still under educated. That’s why you sound so cute, naive and innocent. There are good guys both rich and poor. But you’ll find them at the queue’s end. That’s a long boring walk. No?

  2. Love, love LOVE your blog! I, too, am a 20-something in NYC, writing about well… relationships, careers and the city in general. It’s called Glass Heels, and it’s the relationship (or conflict) between our Cinderella glass slippers and 4-inch power heels. http://glassheels.wordpress.com/ Well, anyways, I loved your blog. And I just “liked” it on Facebook. So I look forward to reading more!

    1. Kathleen

      Glass Heels is fantastic (what girl doesn’t love a good pair of shoes… and the climb up the corporate ladder in them!) Just “liked” it on Facebook too. We 20-something New Yorkers (with a predilection for designer footwear) have to stick together

  3. Tiny Temper

    Hi Kathleen,

    Loved your blog – it made me smile because I have just started something similar – only from a middle-aged divorcee’s perspective. And, oh boy! are English my age a bundle of fun!
    Keep the faith, and always believe in Prince Charming! 😉 x

  4. This is awesome… lol I will definitely be following! 🙂

    oh and if you happen to find out if your future rich husband has a rich single brother.. please pass him along..thanks 🙂

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  6. I think most of us end up being happy with the exact opposite of what we think we want/need. I hope you find someone you love who treats you well–there are a lot of ways to be rich!

  7. Dating reminds me of my time as an Outside Sales Rep in New York City. When looking for prospects, I cold call on women at various social venues Bars/Clubs at night, Parks, Stores and the Subway. I network with friends for leads on potential single women and networking. I use various online social networking/dating sites for dating along with singles networking events. First dates are like sales interviews and networking events; you need to sell yourself to get the next step. This next step can be a first or second date another appointment or a commitment.

    As you can see like selling their is plenty of hit and miss. In efforts to find the right person; I stand tall in the face of rejection especially when you want the customer and date that everyone wants. Knowing your competition along with prospects is essential for sales and dating success. It all boils down to being yourself.

    My ability to persevere, has lead me to a lot of dating and sales success. Although I haven’t met the “one”, I have met a lot of great people along the way. My goal is to meet women who are as attractive and intelligent as me in their 20’s. I know that it is a only matter of time before this happens. Just to give you a little idea about myself, I am a Native Yorker and Italian American with an Athletic build. I have attached some pictures of myself.


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