Blogging is dangerous business. Originally, They Told Me to Find a Rich Husband was supposed to be anonymous. For a long time, even after I had given the “About” section a named authoress and a face, googling me wouldn’t get you to my blog. Somewhere along the way, probably thanks to Facebook, that changed. Now, anyone doing background on me will find TTM2FaRH front and center on the first page of search results.
Is this a problem?
Up until today, the answer would have been “no.” There’s nothing I’ve written that I would be ashamed to have a boss or family member read. A few boys doing their pre-date due-diligence have stumbled on this page — what they uncovered had never amounted to a strike against. Quite the contrary.
And that’s largely because I had adhered to a few simple rules: never be mean, never complain.
Boys behave badly, boys break your heart, but never make your blog about them. Keep it about you. Because sometimes, you behave badly. That’s more or less been my motto.
But I broke my rules. In a moment of frustration, I riddled off and published a post I shouldn’t have. For the first time, I made it solely about them. And it was mean-spirited. Thanks to google, it was found. I was rightly put in my place.
“One cannot be always laughing at a man without now and then stumbling upon something witty” — so wrote Jane Austen in Pride & Prejudice. Stumbling upon something witty is what TTM2FaRH hopes to do. Yet in the same book, her best loved hero, Mr. Darcy confesses: “I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offenses against myself…My good opinion once lost is lost forever.”
The keyboard is mightier than the sword, and used recklessly, offers the Mr. Darcy’s of the world reasons enough to loose their good opinions.
There are enough blogs out there that ridicule men — Fail Males, for example.They Told Me to Find a Rich Husband will not be one of them.
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That really brings up that interesting question of anonymity online and whether it makes us more brave (more rash? less thoughtful? more cruel? less afraid?) in expressing our thoughts.
Then again, we do it in real life too time to time.
Very honest and well written.
I agree, instead of making it about what they did to you, writing about what I felt going through the experience is better – and can’t be interpreted as mud slinging. It’s me, not them! I try to get through all my posts like that – as well as not being mean, and with no complaining. If I do have a complaining rant I call it “Getting it off my chest” for fair warning and they don’t have to read it. So far I only have one of those. I love the name of your blog! i can’t wait to see what other gems are hidden in the site.
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