In my teen years, every crush was measured against the horoscope. I believed that the alignment of the planets dictated my soulmate and was quick to consult the stars. But when every so-called perfectly-paired Virgo, Taurus, and Scorpio I fell for in high school proved duds, I retired my astrology chart.
Then this past April I met Zev, a sensual Scorpio with a scorpion tattooed on his neck and his zodiac symbol stamped on his forearm, and I became 13 again.
“You know, Cancers and Scorpios are a perfect match,” he said as he took a long sip from his scotch and soda.
I rolled my eyes. He persisted and pulled out his smartphone to show off a website that proved his point.
“The Cancer-Scorpio match is a match made in heaven” it read. “The the two of you could literally see fireworks.”
He leaned over and pointed to the screen with a wink: “the two of you will make love like it’s an Olympic sport.”
I admit, I was intrigued and agreed to dinner a week later.
Dinner was where things with Zev ended.
So much for “this passionate connection can develop into the perfect marriage.” As I adjusted my skirt and stomped off into the pouring rain, I promised I would never trust the Zodiac again.
When the next boy came around and our connection was as deep as it was instantaneous, I couldn’t help but wonder: is this written in the stars?
Enter the “daily horoscope” app for my smartphone.
Apparently, two crabby Cancers make a terrible match. Water-sign + water-sign = deluge. Forget bad romance. Think a Chernobyl romance, overwrought with “I feel…” and moon-phase-induced emotional mood-swing nuclear spills.
“You run the risk of mirroring each others weaknesses…A marriage would be work for this pair” — that’s the way the astrology site phrased it — a euphemistic way to say, you’ll need more than a pre-nup going into this, you’ll need an excellent lawyer, or hell, an army of lawyers…and a box of tissues…and a therapist.
I shrugged and considered the unfavorable forecast. True, we had quickly committed to sharing our feelings about, not only each other, but everything — from the challenges of our respective workplaces to our inner-deepest reflections on love.
This type of display was totally out of character for me. I refused to believe that our instant connection wasn’t endorsed by the celestial bodies.
I googled “astrological compatibility,” and read until I found a glimmer of hope to cling to. 4 result pages in, I found it: “On the whole, this is quite a good match…and the sexual chemistry with be high!”
I bookmarked that astrology page and decided it would be the only one I’d consult…at least, until the deluge.